Virginia Divorce: Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating
The suspicion that your spouse is cheating can be a nightmare for most spouses. Many Virginia divorce attorneys get the question, ‘how do I know whether my spouse is cheating?’ While there could be legitimate explanations for some of his or her behavior, there is also the possibility they are being unfaithful.
Virginia courts recognize adultery as grounds for divorce, but it also requires that there be “clear and convincing” evidence to make a finding of adultery. Even if you are separated or in the process of divorce, dating during this time could be considered proof of adultery. Proving adultery can be extremely difficult; however, having confirmation of the affair could put you in a better bargaining position in regard to asset distribution.
Here are some possible red flags when it comes to determining whether your spouse is cheating:
Spending More Time Away from Home
If there is a sudden change in the amount of time your spouse is spending at home, it could be a warning sign. Has your spouse suddenly taken on a lot of extra work for no reason? Are they suddenly slipping away in the evenings, or wanting to spend a lot more time alone? None of these are positive indicators, but an abrupt change in the amount of time he or she spends at home is a red flag.
Becomes More Secretive
Is your spouse taking their phone with them every time they leave the room or taking their computer to the garage when they go outside or to run quick errands? Becoming more secretive and hiding their phone or computer from you could be a sign that something is going on. If your spouse used to leave their phone sitting on the counter when emails or messages came in and now they suddenly turn it away or go to the other room to answer, that is not a good sign.
Unusual Spending Habits
If your spouse is cheating, he or she may be spending money on their new partner. If there is an increase in their spending habits, or unexplained, larger than usual withdrawals from the ATM, you may find out your spouse is spending money on funding the affair or buying gifts for their new partner.
Change in Appearance and Sexual Habits
Did your spouse rarely pay attention to grooming habits, dressing up, or buying new clothes and now they are trying to be a runway model? A sudden change in appearance can be explained by some other triggers too — maybe they lost weight, recently got over a bout of depression, changed jobs, etc.
Has your spouse suddenly become less interested in sex with you? If he or she is now having sex with someone else, it’s very likely that their habits toward you sexually may change. It may not be just sexual activity, but affection and intimacy as a whole.
Retaining a Virginia Divorce Attorney
If you are considering divorce and/or you think your spouse is cheating on you, it’s important to at least speak with a Virginia divorce attorney to discuss your options. Contact Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy PC at 703-997-4982 to schedule a consultation and let one of our experienced attorneys help you with all your family law needs.