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  • John C. Whitbeck, Jr.


    John C. Whitbeck, Jr. practices in the following areas of law: Family Law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Mediation, Arbitration, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Criminal Law, DUI/DWI, Reckless Driving, All Felonies, All Misdemeanors, Juvenile Crimes, Mental Health Law, Civil and Business Litigation, Construction Litigation, Education Law, Election Law, Debt Collection, Consumer and Lemon Law.

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  • Ruth M. McElroy


    Ruth M. McElroy practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Pre and Post Marital Agreements, Domestic Violence, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Juvenile Crimes, Felony and Misdemeanor Crimes, Traffic Offenses, Debt Collection, Civil and Business Litigation. She serves the Virginia Court system as a Guardian ad litem.

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  • Jennifer D. Cisneros


    Jennifer D. Cisneros practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Juvenile Crimes, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Estate Planning, Wills and Probate, Trusts, Civil and Business Litigation and Debt Collection.

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Tips to Handle an Unreasonable Spouse During a Divorce


You may go into your divorce thinking that you and your spouse can keep things reasonable and amicable. It might only take a few weeks or months to realize this may not happen. Husbands and wives can be angry, resentful, and even vengeful during a divorce. These negative emotions can overwhelm their objectivity, causing them to become unreasonable during the divorce and making your life far more difficult than it needs to be. When it comes to a difficult or contentious spouse, your best chance at success is to work with a skilled and experienced divorce attorney in Leesburg.

Tips to Handle an Unreasonable Spouse

When your spouse becomes increasingly hard to work with during a divorce, it does not help to get worked up, stressed, or overwhelmed. Instead, partner with an experienced divorce lawyer who is prepared to bear the brunt of your spouse’s behavior and consider these tips:

  • Do not fight back. When accusations are being thrown at you, do not rise to the challenge. Let your husband or wife rant all they like. Then direct them to speak with your attorney. It can be hard not to respond to a challenge or get angry in return. Just remember that fighting back can hurt your chances to get what you want in court.
  • Determine your priorities and stick to them. When your spouse is making your divorce harder than necessary, it can be easy to want to be petty in return. However, it is better to speak with your lawyer about your needs and priorities and stay true to them.
  • Separate your finances and prepare for your own future. Unreasonable spouses often take marital money or demand money from you. When this happens, direct your husband or wife to your attorney. Do not give them money unless you are directed to by your lawyer or the court. Separate your finances, including your bank accounts and credit cards, and then watch out for your own financial health. It is often a good idea to speak with a financial advisor or accountant to prepare for your new budget, the tax consequences of divorce, and retirement.
  • Do not put your kids in the middle. When you have children with your spouse, it can be all too easy to complain about your husband or wife to the kids. However, this is their mom or dad. They are not divorcing and they do not deserve to have their parent disparaged. Keep your complaints to yourself, lawyer, best friends, or therapist. Additionally, do not try and use your kids as pawns. For instance, do not tell your spouse you will give in to their demands if you get more time with your kids.
  • Consider a therapist or support group. It is entirely reasonable that you will need to vent during your divorce. However, do not want to vent about your husband or wife to your kids, family, or mutual friends. In order to have a safe space to speak your mind, consider going to a therapist or divorce support group in your community. The broader and stronger your support network during this time, the better.

Contact a Leesburg Divorce Lawyer for Help

Going through a contentious divorce can be overwhelming and wear you down. At a time when you should be excited about moving forward with your life, you are instead harassed with unreasonable demands. To work through these issues, contact the Leesburg divorce attorneys of Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy PC today for help.

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