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  • John C. Whitbeck, Jr.


    John C. Whitbeck, Jr. practices in the following areas of law: Family Law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Mediation, Arbitration, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Criminal Law, DUI/DWI, Reckless Driving, All Felonies, All Misdemeanors, Juvenile Crimes, Mental Health Law, Civil and Business Litigation, Construction Litigation, Education Law, Election Law, Debt Collection, Consumer and Lemon Law.

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  • Ruth M. McElroy


    Ruth M. McElroy practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Pre and Post Marital Agreements, Domestic Violence, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Juvenile Crimes, Felony and Misdemeanor Crimes, Traffic Offenses, Debt Collection, Civil and Business Litigation. She serves the Virginia Court system as a Guardian ad litem.

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  • Jennifer D. Cisneros


    Jennifer D. Cisneros practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Juvenile Crimes, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Estate Planning, Wills and Probate, Trusts, Civil and Business Litigation and Debt Collection.

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Resolving Virginia High-Conflict Divorce and Custody Cases


You have divorces that are contentious and filled with emotion, and then you have high-conflict divorces that become more complex and harder to resolve. If you are currently involved in a high-conflict Virginia divorce and/or custody battle, you need a Leesburg child custody attorney who has experience handling these types of cases.

High-conflict can refer to the fighting during the process itself, but there are also people who can be categorized as high-conflict, making the process even more challenging. Signs of a high-conflict divorce can include one party making demands that are impossible to meet, refusing to agree to any terms in a mediation, dragging out the divorce, changing legal counsel multiple times when he or she does not agree with their opinion, repeatedly petitioning the courts, etc.

Dealing with High-Conflict People

If your soon-to-be-ex is a high-conflict person, you may have to learn how to better communicate with them in order to reduce the tension, especially if you have children. High-conflict people become defensive, as they believe they are always under attack, being controlled, or put down. This means a simple conversation about an upcoming school assignment can turn into a massive blow up.

While a family law attorney won’t be there help you through all the arguments after the divorce, he or she can help reduce the tension during the process and use negotiation methods so that the high-conflict person is more open to resolving the remaining issues in your divorce.

High-conflict behavior that continues after the divorce can certainly have negative effects on your children. Children are resilient, yet extremely perceptive. And, if one parent is bad-mouthing the other in front of the children, it can be damaging. As is, children are already going through a massive transition as well. They are now adjusting to living in two homes, or maybe they are moving to a new location because of the divorce. This means making new friends, starting in a new school, etc. All of this can take a toll on your children, which is why it’s best to try and resolve your divorce as swiftly and amicably as possible.

High-Conflict Custody Battles

High-conflict divorce and custody battles can also refer to some serious underlying issues that make the case more difficult. These often require litigation to resolve due to home environments that are toxic, as they may include physical or sexual abuse, one parent who is a drug addict or is an alcoholic, there is domestic abuse, or any other indication there may be serious problems.

While you want to resolve the custody issues quickly, the court will always decide what is in the child’s best interest. Any allegations of the aforementioned issues may result in the judge awarding legal and physical custody to only one parent. The other may or may not have visitation rights, and it may be supervised if awarded.

Contact a Virginia Family Law Attorney Today

If you are in the middle of a divorce or custody battle in Virginia, let us help. Contact Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy PC today to schedule an initial consultation.


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