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  • John C. Whitbeck, Jr.


    John C. Whitbeck, Jr. practices in the following areas of law: Family Law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Mediation, Arbitration, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Criminal Law, DUI/DWI, Reckless Driving, All Felonies, All Misdemeanors, Juvenile Crimes, Mental Health Law, Civil and Business Litigation, Construction Litigation, Education Law, Election Law, Debt Collection, Consumer and Lemon Law.

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  • Ruth M. McElroy


    Ruth M. McElroy practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Pre and Post Marital Agreements, Domestic Violence, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Juvenile Crimes, Felony and Misdemeanor Crimes, Traffic Offenses, Debt Collection, Civil and Business Litigation. She serves the Virginia Court system as a Guardian ad litem.

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  • Jennifer D. Cisneros


    Jennifer D. Cisneros practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Juvenile Crimes, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Estate Planning, Wills and Probate, Trusts, Civil and Business Litigation and Debt Collection.

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I Think my Spouse is Spying on me – What Should I do?


When your marriage is reaching its end or after you file for divorce, things can turn ugly. In some cases, your husband or wife may believe you are cheating on them, being a bad parent, or lying about money. To gain evidence of your supposed wrongdoing, he or she may turn to spying. However, spying is not only inappropriate during a divorce or child custody matter, it may also be illegal. If you think your husband or wife is spying on you, contact an attorney right away.

What is Spying?

Spying comes in many forms, yet overall, it is a person illegally obtaining information about you. Your spouse may spy on you by:

  • Following you or using a GPS tracker on your vehicle
  • Hiring someone to follow you
  • Reading your texts, emails, and mail without consent either by having your password, hacking, or installing spyware
  • Going into your social media accounts or creating a fake profile to connect with you
  • Listening to or recording your phone conversations without your knowledge
  • Putting hidden surveillance cameras in your home or vehicle
  • Speaking with your friends, coworkers, or romantic partners without your knowledge

Signs Your Spouse is Spying on You

Unfortunately, if your spouse is a talented spy, it can be very difficult to tell he or she is doing it. However, there are signs of spying, including:

  • You notice the same individual near you in numerous places
  • You notice the same vehicle behind you on multiple occasions
  • You hear odd sounds during your phone call or after you hang up
  • There are signs of disturbances at your home, such as the wall plates have been moved or there is drywall dust on the floor
  • Your spouse has private information about you that only certain other people would know about
  • You receive notifications from email or cloud services that your account has been accessed from another location
  • Your computer’s antivirus software detects a new dangerous virus or program

What to do if You Believe Your Spouse is Spying on You

If you believe that your spouse may be spying on you, contact an experienced divorce attorney from Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy PC right away. You may be able to confront your spouse about his or her behavior and get him or her to stop. It may help to be more transparent and to answer his or her questions. However, if your spouse is unreasonable, it may be best to protect yourself from this interference and invasion of privacy. You may want to update all of your passwords, install anti-spyware software on your computers, and have your home, office, and vehicle looked over for electronic bugs.

If you believe your spouse has taken it too far or broken the law, discuss taking this information to court or calling the police. If you have firm evidence of your spouse’s spying, you may be able to seek a protective order from a judge. If it violated a state or federal law, a prosecutor may charge your spouse with a crime.

For more information on what to do if you think your spouse is spying on you, call us today at 703-997-4982. The dedicated Leesburg attorneys at our office are prepared to assist you with your case.



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