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  • John C. Whitbeck, Jr.


    John C. Whitbeck, Jr. practices in the following areas of law: Family Law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Mediation, Arbitration, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Criminal Law, DUI/DWI, Reckless Driving, All Felonies, All Misdemeanors, Juvenile Crimes, Mental Health Law, Civil and Business Litigation, Construction Litigation, Education Law, Election Law, Debt Collection, Consumer and Lemon Law.

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  • Ruth M. McElroy


    Ruth M. McElroy practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Pre and Post Marital Agreements, Domestic Violence, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Juvenile Crimes, Felony and Misdemeanor Crimes, Traffic Offenses, Debt Collection, Civil and Business Litigation. She serves the Virginia Court system as a Guardian ad litem.

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  • Jennifer D. Cisneros


    Jennifer D. Cisneros practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Juvenile Crimes, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Estate Planning, Wills and Probate, Trusts, Civil and Business Litigation and Debt Collection.

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5 Red Flags Your Marriage May be Headed for Divorce in Virginia


Sure, there are times where a divorce filing can come out of the blue, but in most cases, there are warning signs. Some of these signs may be obvious, while others might be easy to overlook. If you’ve been served with divorce papers or you are contemplating filing for divorce, we recommend speaking with an experienced Virginia divorce attorney first. This will help you understand what your options are and how the Virginia divorce process works.

In the meantime, here are several red flags to watch out for that may indicate your marriage is possibly headed for divorce.

Communication Breakdown

Healthy communication is one of the most important factors in any relationship. When this communication breaks down, it can leave both partners stressed and frustrated. One hiccup related to a specific situation is not reason to panic, but if you stop communicating on all marital topics, you could have trouble. This is especially concerning if there are underlying issues that are not resolved.

One Partner Putting the Other Down

Does it feel like you are putting your spouse down or you’re the one constantly being put down? When someone is negative towards your appearance, ambitions, and other important topics, it is a major red flag. No one wants to be attacked, especially about their appearance and life goals. If the attacks become more frequent, it is something that needs to be addressed.

You Don’t Spend Time Together

If your relationship has become more like roommates and you no longer do anything together, it’s time to worry. It doesn’t necessarily mean the other person is cheating, but there is clearly a reason your husband or wife suddenly prefers to do things without you. If your spouse has a new job or schedule that requires long hours and he or she just doesn’t feel like going out when they gets home, it may be related to exhaustion rather than not caring about you. This is where open and honest communication can determine whether there is a reason to worry or not.

The Trust is Broken

Trust is one of the easiest things to break in a relationship, and one of the hardest to earn back. The lack of trust doesn’t have to be related to adultery, but maybe your spouse lied about something else. If your partner is starting to make up lies or keep secrets, it can be hard to trust him or her, and that will create additional problems in the marriage.

Life Goals Change 

People are entitled to change their life goals as they mature, but if you and your spouse had a plan before getting married and one spouse suddenly makes a dramatic decision that alters it, it can be a deal breaker for some couples. Perhaps, for example, you agreed that you would have children a couple years into the marriage and your spouse suddenly decides he or she doesn’t want children ever.

Retaining a Virginia Divorce Attorney

If you have any questions related to divorce, contact Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy PC at 703-997-4982 to schedule a consultation. Let one of our knowledgeable attorneys assist with all your family law related needs.


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