5 Mistakes to Avoid During a Divorce
No matter how you swing it, divorces are hard. Some days you will feel good and the future will look brighter. Other days you will need to cry and vent over the frustration, anger, and resentment you feel toward your spouse. The gauntlet of emotions you will run over these coming months are normal and most divorcees go through them. However, they can also lead you to make poor decisions if you are not care.
No matter how you are feeling toward your spouse during the divorce, you should never:
- Discuss your spouse or divorce on social media. It is common to vent on social media nowadays. People air their dirty laundry so much, it can feel safe for you to do so as well. However, bad mouthing your spouse online can come back to haunt you during your divorce, particularly if you are arguing over custody of your kids. Additionally, if any of your comments come across as threats, you could be in trouble with the law.
- Speak badly about your spouse to your children. No matter how you feel about your soon-to-be-ex wife or husband, that is your children’s other parent. They will have a relationship with that person the rest of their lives, no matter how you feel about it. You can either support this relationship and let your children grow up with two loving parents, or you can speak ill of your spouse and make the divorce more traumatic for your children. If you are genuinely concerned about your child’s safety or wellbeing with your spouse, speak to your attorney about your options for gaining full custody.
- Ignore a court order. If there is a court ordered child custody, child support, or spousal support arrangement, do not disobey it. You may not agree with the parenting schedule, but you do not have a right to keep your kids from the other parent. Even if the other parent does not follow the court order, do not try and retaliate. For instance, many parents withhold child support when the other parent does not follow the custody agreement. This is not lawful and will get you into trouble.
- Pick fights with your spouse. It can be difficult to see your spouse face-to-face during a divorce. However, it is going to happen sometime. Whatever you do, do not pick a fight. Choose to be the calm and courteous person. This can help your case in court and ensures you do not make the situation worse for yourself or your kids.
- Destroy your spouse’s property. You have seen the images of angry spouses throwing their husband’s or wife’s possessions out the window, throwing items in the trash, or keying their cars. Actions done in anger like these can feel good momentarily, but they will not help you during your divorce. They will increase hostility and can make you look bad in the eyes of the judge.
Contact a Leesburg Divorce Lawyer for Help
The best advice an attorney can give you headed into a divorce is to not let your emotions get the better of you. When you are in a private, supportive environment with family and friends, let your negative emotions loose. However, in public, with your kids, and online, keep calm and choose the wisest course of action for the future.
To learn more about the process of divorce in Virginia, contact Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy, PC today. Our Leesburg family law attorneys are eager to assist you immediately.