3 Ways to Have a Successful Divorce in Virginia
Whether or not a divorce is successful depends on your perspective. The legal proceeding may be successful in your eyes once it finalizes the end of your marriage. However, it might not feel successful if it takes years of bitter fighting to get there. At our office, we believe there are ways to work through a divorce efficiently and amicably, enabling you both to feel triumphant and allowing you to move forward with your lives and co-parent your children.
3 Ways to Have a Successful Divorce
There are certain strategies that will help you get through a divorce, including the following:
- Focus on being polite and cordial. It can be difficult to feel friendly toward your soon-to-be ex-spouse. However, if you make a concerted effort to be not only polite but cordial in your interactions, you can not only help the divorce go smoother, you can help yourself work through any feelings of anger, sadness, or resentment. Additionally, being amicable extends beyond your direct interactions with your spouse. You should strive to not bad mouth him or her on social media, to mutual friends and family members, and especially to your children. Sometimes the best way to achieve this is to find a support network, such as a divorce support group in your community, where you can safely vent your frustrations. Also, if you are the type of person who is tempted to put your life into a Facebook status or tweet, then consider suspending your accounts until the divorce is over.
- Cooperate with your attorney. One of the ways you can help your divorce run smoothly and as quickly as possible is to take your attorney’s advice to heart and cooperate. If your attorney has asked you for information or records, get these back to him or her as soon as possible. If your attorney is telling you the solution you want is not feasible, work with him or her to figure out a realistic outcome. Also, if your attorney recommends mediation or another alternative dispute resolution, take this suggestion seriously. If you and your spouse predominantly get along and only have a few issues to work out, mediation can save both of you a lot of time and money.
- Shelter your children. You cannot keep the divorce and many of its effects from your kids, and you should not try to. Your children deserve honest explanations of what is going on and how their lives may change. However, that does not mean they need to know everything or have their lives drastically altered. During the divorce you should do your best to protect and shelter your children from harsh truths that are beyond their age and maturity. Do not give them unnecessary details, complain to them, or bad mouth their other parent.
Contact a Leesburg Divorce Attorney for Advice Today
Getting a divorce in Virginia can be stressful, yet there are ways to make the situation easier on you and your kids. Your attitude and how you handle the emotional turmoil of this time can make all the difference. For more information on how to obtain a divorce and how to get through it as quickly as possible, call us at Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy PC at 703-997-4982.