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    John C. Whitbeck, Jr. practices in the following areas of law: Family Law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Mediation, Arbitration, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Criminal Law, DUI/DWI, Reckless Driving, All Felonies, All Misdemeanors, Juvenile Crimes, Mental Health Law, Civil and Business Litigation, Construction Litigation, Education Law, Election Law, Debt Collection, Consumer and Lemon Law.

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    Ruth M. McElroy practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Pre and Post Marital Agreements, Domestic Violence, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Juvenile Crimes, Felony and Misdemeanor Crimes, Traffic Offenses, Debt Collection, Civil and Business Litigation. She serves the Virginia Court system as a Guardian ad litem.

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    Jennifer D. Cisneros practices in the following areas of law: Family law, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Visitation Rights, Adoptions, Spousal Support, Relocation Cases, Domestic Violence, Juvenile Crimes, Reckless Driving, DUI/DWI, Estate Planning, Wills and Probate, Trusts, Civil and Business Litigation and Debt Collection.

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3 Tips for Divorced Parents to Avoid Stress During the Holidays


Divorce should not stop you from having fun during the holidays, even if you and your ex share kids, and you have conflicting opinions about your co-parenting arrangement.

But planning can be tough if you are a divorced or separated parent in Leesburg or elsewhere in Virginia, and there is no consensus between you and the other parent regarding your existing co-parenting arrangement.

You might want to read our tips for successful co-parenting after divorce. However, if you have legal disputes or disagreements that interrupt your holidays, speak with a Leesburg divorce lawyer to find some middle ground.

How to Avoid Stress and Conflicts with the Other Parent During the Holidays?

If you are feeling a bit worried, stressed out, or anxious about the upcoming holiday season and have no idea how to avoid disputes with the other parent, you are not alone. But like all good parents, you want to make sure that your disagreements with your ex do not ruin your children’s holiday spirit.

If you and the other parent do not get along too well or have conflicting views about the existing child custody order, you might want to:

  • Modify the current arrangement;
  • Put your differences aside during the holidays; or
  • Try to establish a mutually beneficial agreement.
  1. Have an Amicable Discussion

If you want to reduce stress during the holiday season and make sure that your kids are able to enjoy the holidays, you will have to agree with the other parent to keep your children’s best interests in mind. That also means putting your ego aside and learning to compromise.

Amicably discussing any conflicting situations or disagreements is vital, especially during the holiday season, when parents are likely to be stressed out and overwhelmed due to hectic preparations and disruptions of their daily routines.

  1. Incorporate Your Holiday Plans into Your Co-Parenting Arrangement

It is always a good idea to get your holiday plans in writing. Yes, most parents find it tedious to write down their holiday plans or get their holiday schedule in writing, while others consider it unnecessary.

But when conflicts and disagreements arise during the holidays, those written and agreed-upon terms as part of your co-parenting agreement help clarify any issues that may arise between both parents.

Consult with a Leesburg divorce lawyer to incorporate your holiday plans into your agreement correctly. After all, you will also need the court to approve your holiday schedule for it to be valid.

  1. Let the Court Intervene

If amicable discussions are not a viable solution and the other parent is not willing to have a productive conversation to resolve any differences regarding the holiday season, consider going to court.

Instead of banging your head against the wall – i.e., trying to reach consensus with an uncooperative parent – let the court intervene to resolve your legal dispute. Before going to court, talk to a Leesburg divorce attorney to negotiate a mutually beneficial holiday schedule outside of court. Doing so would cost you less money, time, and stress.

Contact Whitbeck Cisneros McElroy, PC, to find out how you can avoid stress during your divorce process. Call at 703-997-4982 to discuss your situation.


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